And in the blink of an eye, Wednesday is here again! Hello everyone! I hope this week has been just awesome for you all and that this post finds you happy and motivated to do amazing things! Last week I was talking with M&M about a new television show called Girls. I had never heard about it before this conversation, but apparently it has caused quite the uproar lately. It was brought to my attention as well as the other girls in OneQuay because many people say that it portrays women in a way that is less than perfect. Reviews of the show talk about how it shows young women as being unintelligent, easy, and reliant on their parents for financial support. This is exactly the kind of stuff that we are trying to prevent in the world and we all agreed that it had to be brought to your attention as well. I watched the first episode of season one of the show just to see what all of the talk was- I mean, the show is extremely popular on HBO right now. I wanted to find out why so many young women watch the show and where all of these negative reviews were coming from. Here is what I found out:
After watching the first episode, I immediately thought of the show Gossip Girls. It takes place in New York City and the cast is all young women and men no older than their mid-20s. Very Gossip Girl like, and I understood right away why so many girls must love this show- it’s because it draws you in to the drama right away and makes you want to know what will happen in the next episode. It’s spicy, the characters a funny and charming, and it’s a show that you can tell will have a lot of scandalous drama throughout the season. Who wouldn’t love it? A lot of women, actually. And here’s why I think this is true. In this first episode, three main women are introduced. The first is Hannah, an aspiring writer who does pretty well for herself, but is financially supported by her parents (who decide to cut her off in the episode). The second is Marnie, Hannah’s best friend who has her life all together with a sophisticated job at an art gallery. And lastly is Jessa, a free-spirited girl who travels everywhere just because she can, and has in fact just returned to NYC from France. All three of these women are seemingly strong and independent, but they each have that one thing about them that doesn’t exactly portray them as such and almost completely ruins their whole image. Hannah cannot let go of this guy named Adam. She texts him constantly and he never responds- unless he is looking for a hookup. He is clearly not a good guy, but Hannah always keeps going back. Marnie is with a guy who she doesn’t see herself ending up with. He is crazy about her, but she couldn’t feel any different about him- all for reasons that don’t really make sense. She is too afraid to say something to him. And Jessa, a seemingly independent free-spirit announces to Marnie that she is pregnant and with no husband or boyfriend, it was very unplanned.
I found myself getting super into the show, but at the same time very frustrated. Each of these girls have really great lives. They are strong, courageous women and it seems as though they know what they are doing, but the way the show portrays them in respect to the guys in the show is less than respectable. It makes the girls seem desperate, easy, and in ways that they don’t really respect themselves. And you can see that even if you only watch the first episode. While it is a really interesting show that draws you in right away, it sends a wrong message about women around men. A message that we can all learn from. I’m not saying you shouldn’t watch it, because it is very captivating and a fun show to watch. But what I am saying is DO NOT let the women in this show, and others like it, dictate how you act around guys and how you let guys treat you and how you live your life. You are all super brilliant and independent women with EXTREMELY bright futures. You should not let a guy determine the way you act and how you view yourself. And especially don’t let a show determine how you handle a situation or how you react to a guy’s text message or something. I challenge you to be a leader among your friends and when you see stuff like what goes on in the show start to happen, stop it. Be the one who is stronger than pressure and what everyone else is saying and have RESPECT for yourself. I promise you, one of the best things you can do for yourself and your friends is show that you have the utmost respect for YOURSELF. Don’t let shows influence the way you act or treat others or let others treat you. I encourage you today to take a look at yourself and find that respect you should have for yourself. Be better than the girls portrayed in the show, and don’t let them influence the way you are, because you are all SO awesome in EVERY way!
I hope you all have a fantastic finish to the week. Your challenge (along with the ones I already told you above) is to do something this week to show that you have respect for yourself. I’ll leave it up to you to figure out what that will be, but as corny as it may sound, maybe you refrain from joining in on an argument or something on Twitter, or maybe you decide to stand up against someone who isn’t always that nice to you, WHATEVER it is, respect YOURSELF. Be a positive light in this world that can be so dim- show the world that us women are TOUGH and POWERFUL! Happy Wednesday, and I’ll see you next week!
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